Brewing Consistency Soup

Consistency is the powerful yet elusive skill that separates dreamers from achievers, requiring a unique recipe of ingredients to master in our daily lives. Dr. Shon shares her personal "Consistency Soup" recipe as part of her 365-day experiment to build better consistency habits while inviting listeners to create their own formula for showing up daily.

• Consistency Soup requires "delulu" (healthy delusion) to pursue ambitious goals despite obstacles
• Showing up consistently means being present even when no external validation exists
• Unapologetic authenticity and passion form the foundation for sustainable consistency
• Gratitude for small wins creates positive neurological feedback that reinforces consistent behavior
• Creativity serves as the secret ingredient, allowing flexibility within consistent action
• Bad habits can become consistent easily, while positive habits require intentional effort
• Balancing multiple responsibilities (like running a dental practice) demands strategic consistency
• Dr. Shon's personal journey from hood to dentist required consistent action despite systemic barriers

Join the conversation by sharing what's in your Consistency Soup on Twitter @DrShonW with the hashtag #ConsistencySoup.

Chapters

• 1:13 Welcome to the Consistency Project
• 2:27 What Goes Into Consistency Soup?
• 5:52 The Secret Ingredient: Creativity
• 9:46 From Hood to Hooded: Personal Journey
• 15:38 Building Your Own Recipe

Transcript

Speaker 1: 0:37

this is day three of the consistency project and I can't believe it. I am just here because it's the consistency project, honestly, that's why I'm here. This is actually an experiment that I'm doing consistency soup. You're probably like what? The is that? What are you talking about? Now, dr sean? Like what? What is consistency soup?

Speaker 1: 1:03

Consistency soup is something that we're creating right now. That's what this whole experiment is about is to see what it takes to really be consistent. Now, if you're a consistent person and you're a person who is disciplined and you don't procrastinate, drop the secrets in the comments, please, because wondering minds want to know. Really. Consistency seems so simple the word. It seems simple, but in actuality, it's one of the hardest skills that you'll ever attempt is to do something consistently. Now, sometimes bad habits can be done consistently. Bad habits can be done on a regular basis and as a dentist, I'm always going to use like flossing. People get into a bad habit of consistently not flossing, which is going to consistently harm your body in multiple ways. But when it comes to, like your career, your goals for yourself, no matter what age you are, you know, when it comes to having a positive mindset and growing mentally, physically and spiritually on a daily basis. Consistency has to be the soup that you've eaten, because if you eating soup full of procrastination, soup full of um, sadness, and days where you're waking up and you just don't give it your all, that's like some other type of soup. We want consistency soup, so that's what we are trying to build. So I'm using my experience from a lifetime of being from the hood, a lifetime of always having less, a lifetime of being underserved and always being in a position where you got to go 10 times harder than other people one because of poverty, two because of lack of parents, three because the color of my skin and four because I'm a female. Now, everybody has different things that hold them back on why they can't be consistent, or excuses.

Speaker 1: 3:04

I will say Because when you are a consistent person or you want to have that skill under your belt, you just show up for whatever the task that you put before you, whatever goal that you set for yourself. So if you join me on this consistency journey, you may not have started on day one with me, right, but you can start where you are. The moral of the story is to do it every day. Or if you say I want to be consistent. Five times a week, doing this like working out. This is what we're building. This is a skill we are building Right. So a part of that consistency soup is showing up for yourself. This is me showing up for myself, because I know that I might have zero people in the audience.

Speaker 1: 3:51

I know that it seems delusional to get on here and just hold a conversation and just talk when you don't have a form of communication, but the thing about it is, when you want to do some consistently part of that soup, it has to be a little delusional in that soup. It has to be a little delusionalness in that soup, especially if you set a goal that isn't so easy. Like if you do something easy, like I want to be consistent with waking up in the morning, we gonna do that. Naturally, that's not really what we talking about. We want to set something that you've been longing and yearning to do, something that is like a desire, a goal, a dream, and do it, do what it takes to make it happen. Like why do we, as people, wait and let everything stop us from being our greatest, let everything stop us from being that chosen one that we were designed to be since we were born. Okay, so that's what consistency soup is all about.

Speaker 1: 4:55

You're going to have to pour a little bit of the Lulu seasoning in that thing, right? What other things would you put in your consistency soup? I'm going to say, you want to put a little bit of show up-ness in there. That's what I want in my consistency soup A little bit of the Lulu Sprinkle, a little bit of show up-ness. We're just making this up as we go. Okay, we're writing this down. Get you a pen, get you a paper. What is going to be in your consistency soup? So in my consistency soup we're going to have a little bit of delusional delusion on this. We're going to call it the lulu. We're going to have a little bit of show up this. What else are we going to have in here? Because we want to make this soup where it's simple but the taste is just dynamic. The taste is like oh, I can't even put my finger on what you put in there, but I like it. I'm feeling that. I love it.

Speaker 1: 5:59

Another thing that we're gonna put in our consistency soup is being unapologetic, and I use that word a lot because I just love that word unapologetic. We're gonna put some unapologeticness in our soup. What else are we gonna put in our soup? Some passion in our soup. Oh, you gotta have passion. You gotta have some passion in your consistency soup period. And I'm gonna put one more thing so that we don't over complicate this soup, so it's easy for anybody to go and remix this recipe. Make this soup your own.

Speaker 1: 6:36

What are you putting in your consistency soup today? All right, the last thing I want to put in my consistency soup is and this might not sound like it belong in the soup, but I'm going to put in some I'm going to sprinkle in some gratitude, because when you show up for yourself baby steps, show some gratitude. When those results start to come in slowly, don't feel defeated, because sometimes we don't appreciate the small growth. We want to see the big numbers, we want to see the big growth, but show some gratitude just for you showing up. Now. Our admin I know how to say this word at mcdala in your brain and it has a reward and punishment system. So the more you do things that are rewarding, your mind knows and it releases positive hormones that make you feel better every day. When you check off something that you've done, that you set a goal for, your body learns and adapts to this and it makes you feel better every single day. So that's what my consistency soup is.

Speaker 1: 7:49

So today, I challenge you guys to get a piece of paper, just like I did. You can put however many numbers you want, whatever you want, whatever recipe you want to create today. Let's see whatever recipe you want to create today for your consistency soup and write it down. This is a recipe, baby. Like what? Consistency soup as a bonus. This is a secret ingredient to the soup. Now, because this is your soup. You, you can have any secret ingredients you want. There's a secret ingredient that we want to add in our soup. What you think the secret ingredient is.

Speaker 1: 8:36

The secret ingredient to the consistency soup is creativity. Creativity, because one thing about being consistent, you're going to have to, some days, get creative about how you show up, as long as you show up for the task. Some days you will have to fight through some lows. Some days you'll be on too busy. Some days you're gonna have some high. You got a balance and fight through the mindset that says you know what, I'm going to skip this day, because that won't be consistency.

Speaker 1: 9:05

And this is something that I'm really trying to test with myself because I'm not as consistent as I would like to be. I would say I'm probably 60 percent and that's pretty bad. But when you have so many things on your plate and you're being pulled in every direction, especially as a dental practice owner, I'm being pulled in every direction, from like marketing to communication, to staffing, to hr, to billing, to insurance things we're going out of network but insurance things and like CEs and the legal stuff it's just so many parts that just pull you all types of places, especially as a new business entrepreneur and dental practice owner. So many things that can pull you in every direction. So you have to balance and be consistent with something Everything.

Speaker 1: 10:03

You can't be consistent with everything. There's not enough time in a day and if you want to be successful, consistency is going to be a skill that is required. Now, like I said, bad habits we don't want to be consistent with those, but the things that are great habits are often some of the hardest things to do. If it were easy, guess what Everybody would do it. If it was easy, all right, and nothing easy is worth having a lot of the times. So make sure your consistency soup is making a soup that tastes really dynamic, it has a lot of flavor, it can be easily replicated. If you give this to a friend who needs some help with consistency and make sure that you put your heart into it, you know, and it's okay to not be perfect with your consistency. That's why we are talking about this.

Speaker 1: 11:01

Like I said, I'm a dentist, I have a lot going on and you can find your way into the excuseville and we want to stay away from excuseville, no excuses. So my suit again has, I'm going to say, one cup of delusionalist, one cup of delulu, one cup of delulu, a half a cup of show upness, a half a cup of unapologeticness, one cup of passion, one cup of gratitude, and like a dash or a sprinkle of my secret ingredient, which is creativity. Um, period, creativity. So creativity is like having consistency, but also having that childlike or kidlike mind that is unafraid to just like be you like, let it go like. Just do you stop getting in your own head. I talk to so many people who get in their own head and I'm guilty too, because anything I'm saying is definitely like I said, this is an experiment. That is for me, but it's also for our community as we grow. It's also for anybody who wants to join in on this whole little thing that I'm doing.

Speaker 1: 12:22

That just came out of nowhere, where I just need this. Some of us need this, like this might be the one key thing that you're missing is just showing the up. You think you need hair makeup camera. What you really need is to show the up. That's why we making this soup tonight. This is a little cooking class, a little cooking class on your skill set, just to check in and make sure that we are starting off on the right foot. I would be interested to know what is in your consistency suit.

Speaker 1: 12:57

I might pose that question on my Twitter right now. Yeah, let's do it right now. And even if you watch the replay, or you hear this on the podcast, the Hood to Hooded podcast, when I chop this down, or if you watch this on the YouTube replay, I want you to go to my twitter. My twitter name is at dr sean w d r s h o n w and we're gonna put the question what is in your hashtag?

Speaker 1: 13:30

Consistency soup one cup of delulu. Y'all know what delulu is. I mean, you gotta be a little delusional. When I wanted to be a dentist, I had to be a little delusional. Coming out of the hood, you know, without having a roadmap, guidance, money, sometimes, sometimes nowhere to sleep, sickness. I had to be a little delusional to sometimes work two and three jobs, y'all my story go deep. It go a little deeper than that, but that's what I got a book for. That's what I got a book for and my book working on that too. You got to be a little little to do these type of things. This book that I have over here.

Speaker 1: 14:12

I wrote this book during my transition from Meharry Medical College through my residency at Brooklyn Hospital Center, through when I first started my first associate jobs, because I was so like the Lulu. I'm like, okay, I'm this dentist, I'm working, but where the money at? I thought this was going to be a little different because I'm still like struggling a little bit as a doctor. That's what I was thinking. So I'm like I gotta get more than one stream of income. And I started that journey doing like day trading, just learning about different sources of income. And then this book when my story went viral on facebook, I started writing this book because I'm like, wow, people really are interested in the story to know how a child whose mother passed when they were eight years old, who they didn't even live with, raised by grandmothers with custody battles, father you know, having a substance abuse issue not in the household, not a part of my life during those critical younger years, how you became a doctor, how you got through dental school, like what. So people really became intrigued with that story. So that's why I started the hood to the podcast.

Speaker 1: 15:26

That's why I want to help people, help myself and grow every single day and be the lulu about it. Show up, even if you're the only person in the room, guys, remember that. One cup of passion, one cup of gratitude, because you gotta have some gratitude in your life, like even on your bad days. Just show gratitude for just waking up and having an opportunity to be who you are, because you're so dope. Let me, if nobody told you that today you're so dope, you're so lit, period, like what? Tell me, stop playing with you. One, I mean half a cup of unapologeticness, a half a cup of show upness, show upness, baby, I know I just made that up. And secret ingredients. We cannot forget our secret ingredient, guys. A dash of creativity, because a little creativity can go a long way. You know how they say the mustard seed size faith. That's kind of like you need a mustard seed size of creativity. So a dash of creativity and boom. This is consistency soup. Alright,